Error comes with distance…

That is Steve Farrar’s first principle in being a father (see Point Man). Error comes with distance. Shooting from a greater distance becomes progressively harder and bowling from the regulation line is harder than from 10 feet away. We make errors the further removed we become from something.
It is the same in being a father. Physical distance from our children; lack of quantity of time spent together will cause serious errors in our ability to father. Emotional distance is even worse.
How many men can relate to a father who was around, but never really with them? Too many.
Farrar goes on to talk about the biggest challenge facing many men today being adultery.  He identifies the beginning stages and the hard questions to ask. Finally he comes to the point where he says what I have heard from many others, “if you ever feel like it won’t, it can’t be you, it will be. Pride comes before the fall.”
Farrar talks about men finding marriage a prison and viewing adultery as a fast way out. He then warns that only obedience to God will get us out of that prison. I agree with him completely. Adultery accomplishes nothing but a broken, shattered life.

Where are the mourners?
Where are the tears?
Why are we left with nothing but fears?
Why can’t they see,
How horrible it will be
to watch the death of another family?